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Apr 04

52 Lists

by Stacey

Thanks to the amazing Susannah Conway, I found the greatest on-going project. Morrea Seal‘s 52 Lists Project. Just as it sounds, each week of the year, Morrea posts a new list and asks for her readers to share. Examples of lists include, ‘list the things you should be proud of”, ‘list your essentials’ and ‘list the places you want to go.’

The lists are pretty simple but also pretty open ended making them perfect writing prompts. Moreea also encourages a community to form around these lists on her blog but also at Twitter, Pinterest and Instagram.

I joined in this week for the first time with the list titled ‘Things I Want to Make.’

Not being very DIY, I chose not to take this list literally.

Examples of my responses included,

“I want to make Katherine’s birthday special in the midst of all this crazy house stuff’

and

“I want to make a journal full of wonderfulness.”

Can’t wait to see what future lists will bring…

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Apr 03

March Reading

by Stacey

Well, if I thought February was a slow reading month, March was down right sluggish.

I suppose this whole moving thing has really cut in to my reading time.

That said, I did read a great Patricia Cornwell novel, The Bone Bed, which is always just a fun and relaxing thing to do when the world is spinning around like crazy. Reading these types of books just makes me feel a bit like I am on vacation. Even when I am clearly not.

And then, I read Aristotle and Dante Discover the Secrets of the Universe by Benjamin Alire Saenz.

This book won three ALA Youth  Media Awards this year; The Printz Award for excellence in literature written for young adults, the Pura Belpre award presented to a Latino/Latina writer and illustrator whose work best portrays, affirms, and celebrates the Latino cultural experience in an outstanding work of literature for children and youth and the Stonewall Book Award – Mike Morgan & Larry Romans Children’s & Young Adult Literature Award given annually to English-language children’s and young adult books of exceptional merit relating to the gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender experience.

Aristotle and Dante tells the story of two teenage boys coming to understand their own sexuality. I love reading for the ability it gives us to feel what others do and this book is a perfect example of this. I am not a boy, nor Hispanic, nor gay but through reading this book I have a much greater understanding of each of these perspectives.

If you have limited time to read this month, I certainly recommend Aristotle and Dante. It will be time well spent…

 

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Apr 02

Woman are not Things

by Stacey

I fumed last week as I read about Victoria Secret’s latest campaign, Bright Young Things, part of their PINK line.

While the company claims that the line is targeted at college aged women not girls, words spoken by their representatives contradict this. Victoria Secret’s Chief Financial Officer, Stuart Burgdoerfer said, “When somebody’s 15 or 16 years old, what do they want to be? They want to be older, and they want to be cool like the girl in college, and that’s part of the magic of what we do at PINK.”

I waited to write about this because I couldn’t form a cohesive thought through my outrage and I find I am still struggling. First of all, the line is clearly targeted to tweens and teens although strong and vocal mothers and fathers have scared Victoria Secret enough to get the organization to deny this. And second, I am not satisfied even if this line is only marketed to college aged women.

Why should any person, tween, teen or woman have the words, ‘wild’, ‘call me’ and ‘feeling lucky’ embroidered on her underwear? And why should anyone support a line that is sold to “Bright, Young Things”?

Why is it ok to call woman ‘things?’

In a culture where my nine year old worries that she is fat because her athletic build does not fit in to the trendy skinny jeans, I was nearly brought to tears as a read about a campaign that markets sex to girls while calling them things.

When will this madness stop?

If you feel as I do, please go to Change.org’s petition to pull this line from the shelves.

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Apr 01

A New House

by Stacey

I have been hinting at something big and exciting for a bit now. The NJ real estate laws are such though that I just haven’t felt safe to put our news out in the open until all the t’s were crossed and the i’s dotted.

And now they are!

We are closing on a new house on June 7th and our house goes on the market today!

For a long time now we have been searching for a house that is slightly larger but still in our neighborhood so that we could stay close to friends and the girls could remain at their amazingly wonderful school. Apparently, we aren’t the only ones who like our place because there has been very little to chose from for a very long time. But finally, we found something. Our soon to be new home is lovely and right around the corner (literally) from our current house.

We are beyond thrilled and beyond busy. I have said a couple of times recently that moving is like labor. If we remembered how hard it was, we would never do it again. The organizing, the cleaning, the decision making has felt constant for the past few weeks giving me little time to read, write or visit with friends. My head has hit the pillow each night and my eyes have closed. It has been hard and tiring work.

Now we have done all we can do and we must sit back and wait for the right family to fall in love with our home.

More updates to come…

 

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Mar 29

Go Forth Into Its Expanse

by Stacey

“I remembered that the real world was wide, and that a varied field of hopes and fears, of sensations and excitements, awaited those who had courage to go forth into its expanse…”

– Charlotte Bronte, From Jane Eyre

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Mar 28

My Dog Ate the Easter Bunny*

by Stacey

This ‘once thought to be super cute’ dog ate the Easter Bunny.

Or at least her babies.

Seriously.

I let Daisy out this morning and she was gone for longer than usual. I looked out and saw that something was holding her attention back in the bushes. When I called her, she didn’t come so I went out to investigate.

And that was when I saw it. She had a new born baby bunny in her mouth. And there was a full nest of bunnies next to her.

I will not regale you with the rest of the details. It is enough to say that I will have nightmares for weeks. You don’t need to join me.

I just wanted to warn you in case your children’s Easter baskets were looking a bit slim this year. The Easter Bunny might be in mourning.

*Great thanks to my hysterical and wise friend Beth Meleski for the title of this post.

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Mar 26

Read the Same Book to All Your Children

by Stacey

In this fast paced world we live in, one thing I refuse to give up is read aloud time. I have often accomplished this by reading the same book, at the same time to both girls. This was simple when one was a toddler and one a baby but things are definitely getting trickier as the girls grow older.

Recently, I wrote an article for Maritime Family in which I reminded myself just how to read the same book to all your children.

You can find the link to the article here and I have posted the article as I wrote it (there are some editorial changes in the published version) below.

Read the Same Book to All Your Children

Parents know they should read aloud to their children but not all parents have time to snuggle up with their little ones and a good book, especially if they have children at different reading levels. The seven year old loves chapter books, the two year old wants picture books and the parents are too frazzled to set up different read-aloud times for each.

As one child runs in from a play date and the other jogs out the door to soccer practice, parents must be more efficient with their read aloud time. It’s hard to imagine an active pre-schooler and a studious elementary aged student sitting and listening to the same book. But not only is it fun, it is educationally beneficial as well.

To participate in multi aged read alouds, families must banish the belief that picture books are simplistic. In truth, the reading level of most picture books exceeds that of early readers and many transitional novels. In addition, authors today are tackling more and more complex topics in picture book format. It is not uncommon to find a picture book that tells the story, for example, of war, alcoholic parents or death.

When older children listen to picture books they activate visual thinking. In our visual society, children often struggle with creating a visual image from the text they read, a skill necessary for higher level reading comprehension. Having so often been given images, children can face a challenge when asked to create these mental pictures on their own. Continued reading of picture books can foster this skill.

Listening to picture books read aloud can remind the older child that reading is fun. Older readers can become frustrated by the length and complexity of books they read in school and forget that reading is enjoyable. Sitting with a loved one at home and relaxing in to the reading experience can be just what children need to re-ignite a weakening love of books.

To participate in multi-age read alouds, families must also believe that young children are capable of listening to chapter books before they are able to read them independently. A child’s reading and listening comprehension do not converge until the eighth grade. Until that point, a child is able to comprehend stories read aloud that are two full grade levels above those stories they can read on their own.

Betsy Carter, a kindergarten teacher at The Covenant School in Charlottesville, VA often reads the same books to nine year old daughter and seven year old son. She says, “We have great book discussions! For example, the Harry Potter series easily worked with both but their comprehension and enjoyment were on different levels.”

If listening to chapter books is new for a young child, they may initially appear to be uninterested, playing and moving about the room. In fact, they are paying attention and building up stamina for longer bursts of listening.

There are enormous educational benefits for the younger child who listens to chapter books. They build both their background knowledge and vocabulary while learning important story structures and language available to them only through books. They also listen to fluent, expressive reading which provides a model for their own later independent reading.  Simultaneously, younger children can begin to develop the important skill of holding a plot line in their heads over multiple reading, a skill crucial for later reading comprehension.

Saving time, by reading the same book at the same time to multiple children, is a win-win for today’s busy families. Parents spend quality time with all children while giving an educational boost.

Tips for reading aloud to all:

Treat all literature the same way. Snuggle, laugh, read expressively whether you are reading board books or novels.

Allow smaller children to move and play while you read. They are still listening and growing.

Share time equally among different types of literature. Children will grow to appreciate what they hear.

Use reading as an opportunity for siblings to learn about each other’s loves. Chose topics that one may love that the other doesn’t. They will come to appreciate each other.

Encourage discussion and questions. It is through this opportunity that younger children are able to enjoy books above their level.

Chapter Books to be enjoyed by all

Like Pickle Juice on a Cookie- Julie Sternberg

Marty McGuire- Kate Messner

Anna Hibiscus-Atinuke

Clementine- Sara Pennypacker

Gooney  Bird Greene- Lois Lowry

Picture Books to be enjoyed by all:

I Want my Hat Back- Jon Klassen

Bear Has a Story to Tell- Phillip Stead

Perfect Square- Michael Hall

Blackout- John Rocco

Me..Jane- Patrick McDonnell

 

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Mar 25

The Still Point of the Turning World

by Stacey

I’ve been in a reading rut so I was really excited when I read about The Still Point of the Turning World at one of my favorite blogs, Lindsey’s A Design So Vast. Now, I just read a mention of it first, not a review. And I didn’t buy the real thing. I downloaded the Kindle version. So all this is to say, when I started reading, I really wasn’t prepared. And I nearly had to stop reading then and there.

The Still Point of the Turning World is the story of Emily Rapp’s son’s life. At nine months, Ronan is diagnosed with Tay-Sachs, an incurable degenerative neurological disease.

The memoir begins with the moment of Ronan’s diagnosis. I really don’t think I have ever read anything that I felt so physically in my body. Rapp’s realization that her son’s life is over is literally painful to read. I felt like shielding my eyes from the words the way you do when you watch a scary movie. I put the book down and immediately e-mailed Lindsey to figure out how in the world she read and loved the book.

Her response, “The book really is about life, not death.” prodded me to read on and I am so glad I did.

The Still Point of the Turning World, while desperately sad is also powerfully hopeful. While Rapp was forced to watch and live Ronan’s death, the truth is, we are all dying and there is much to learn from the way this family experiences death. Rapp sprinkles in literary references throughout showing both her love of literature and her reliance on it to explain the unexplainable. I couldn’t stop marking Rapp’s own passages and highlighting books and authors that were both familiar and new to me.

As I search the book for quotes to share it is difficult to settle on what pieces of writing best display the power of this book. There are many but for one piece of inspiration, the following…

“We are all trying to escape our existence, hoping that a better version of us is waiting just behind that promotion, that perfect relationship, that award or accolade, that musical performance, that dress size, that raucous night at a party, that hot night with a new lover. Everyone needs to be pursuing something, right? Otherwise, who are we? How about quite simply, people? How about human? This is the great message of Shelley’s Frankenstein. Part of Ronan’s myth was this acknowledgment that we need the freedom to be people, that’s all.”

 

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Mar 22

The Future Will Unfold

by Stacey

Live in the present. Do the things that need to be done. Do all the good you can each day. The future will unfold.

                                                               – Peace Pilgrim

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Mar 21

Spring?

by Stacey

This picture was taken last week when I thought it was ‘fun’ that snow covered our new spring blooms. I actually said, ‘Oh, that will be a fun picture.”

Then there was the wet, heavy accumulating snow we received two days ago.

And now snow on and off in the forecast in to next week.

Personally, I’m really enjoying all the images of the ground hog that I am seeing now on Facebook. My favorites so far have been of  the critter on unemployment lines and being charged with fraud.

Early spring? I don’t think so and I no longer think it is fun…

 

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