Stacey Loscalzo

Jan 12

Thoughts on Rebecca Solnit’s Diary

by Stacey


Amanda at the beautiful The Habit of Being recently directed me to Rebecca Solnit’s piece ‘Diary’.

I began reading the essay on the computer and quickly realized I needed to print it out so I could read slowly, mark passages, take notes and add exclamation points. As I read Diary, I felt like the child who hasn’t learned to properly highlight yet. I was underlining and circling that a madwoman.

Solnit begins with “When I think about, say, 1995, or whenever the last moment was before most of us were on the internet and had mobile phones, it seems like a hundred years ago.” And does it ever. Rob and I talk often about how we were just out of college when everything changed. We are part of the last group of kids who had to go to the computer lab to write papers and rely on the phones in our dorm rooms to make plans.

So very much changed so very quickly.

Solnit first writes an ode to the handwritten letter and time at the movie theatre.

She writes lines such as “It was exciting to get a letter: the paper and handwriting told you something, as well as the words.” and “It used to be the case that when you were at a movie, you were 100 percent there, in the velvety darkness watching lives unfold in flickering light.”

And then there’s my favorite ode. The ode to the non-mobile phone. I remember sitting still for hours talking and talking and talking while doing nothing else. Our children will never know that feeling. Solnit writes, “On them people had long, deep conversations of a sort almost unknown today, now that phones are used while driving, while shopping, while walking in front of cars against the light.”

After this walk down memory lane, Solnit does address all the wonderful things that these new technologies have brought to us. She writes about voices without censorship and connections found that would otherwise be lost. Then though, she writes what I think is one of the big takeaways from this piece,

“I think of that lost world, the way we lived before these new networking technologies, as having two poles: solitude and communion. The new chatter puts us somewhere in-between, assuaging fears of being alone without risking real connection. It is a shallow between two deep zones, a safe spot between the dangers of contact with ourselves, with others.”

This is it isn’t? With all our time spent on social media, we are never quite alone but we are also rarely connected. I know when I am bored, I hop on to Facebook, Twitter or Instagram and immediately feel like I am in a conversation. The dirty little secret though is that I am not. I am still alone.

And then there’s the constant distraction and the onslaught of constant information. Solnit writes, “There is so much information that our ability to focus on any piece of it is interrupted by other information, so that we bathe in information but hardly absorb or analyze it.”

Toward the end of the piece, Solnit talks to my generation specifically. She notes the older people who spend less time on social media and technology and the younger people who have grown up in this life and then she addressed me as she writes,

“But those of us in the middle feel a sense of loss. I think it is for a quality of time we no longer have, and that is hard to name and harder to imagine reclaiming. My time does not come in large, focused blocks, but in fragments and shards. The fault is my own, arguably, but it’s yours too- it’s the fault of everyone I know who rarely finds herself or himself with uninterrupted hours. We’re shattered. We’re breaking up.”

I read through to the end of the piece, voraciously waiting for Solnit to shine a bit of light at the end. I waited for her to write a 12 step plan out of the ‘connected yet disconnected’ distracted life we are living. Sadly, she did not. Perhaps, her plan is simply to encourage us to think about it and in this greater sense of awareness will come change. Maybe? I guess I will cross my fingers and see.





  1. Kristen says:

    Thank you for bringing my attention to Solnit’s piece. I’ll have to read it myself, but based on what you’ve quoted here, her message sounds very much like what I read this summer in a book called The End of Absence, by Michael Harris. I really loved that book and his way of articulating what I’ve been feeling for a few years now, the last two especially. I’m hoping for a bit of change, though I know it will never be quite like it was. I think that’s the hardest part to accept (isn’t it always?).

    • Stacey says:

      It will never be quite the same- you are so right. And I have such mixed feelings on the whole thing. There are so many amazing things that have happened to me because of my dependence on the internet (like meeting you!) that I’m not sure exactly where I stand…Depends on the day, I think!

  2. I love Rebecca Solnit’s writing. I think you would also enjoy her books ,”The Faraway Nearby” and “A Field Guide to Getting Lost.” She always makes connections that resonate on a level that push me to change or think differently about my perspective. 

    • Stacey says:

      This is the first thing I have read by Rebecca Solnit. I will be sure to check out her books! Thanks for the suggestion!

  3. amanda says:

    I’m so glad the piece resonated with you! I do think her piece was meant to encourage you rather than prescribe because connection and disconnection is subjective and personal and will look differently for each of us. I do agree with Rudri’s recommendation of her two books—I enjoyed them!

    • Stacey says:

      Connection is all so personal. I do think as bloggers, we have a unique take on it. Here I am in conversation with you all who I would not know were it not for this wild internet world… Gives us a lot to think about for sure!

  4. Sandy Sullivan says:

    LOVE Rebecca Solnit. I gave her book “Men Explain Things” to my college-age daughter who is currently on-fire with feminism. Solnit’s newest book of essays is on my book pile- looks beautiful, haunting.

    • Stacey says:

      This is why I love blogging- despite all the confusion with being on devices all the time. I never knew Rebecca Solnit and now I’m learning about all these friends who already know and love her. So fun!

  5. Tamara says:

    I’m scared of my own attention span. I do remember spacing out and doing nothing. I remember reading a book with spare time. I remember going days without checking email. Now I’m lucky if it’s hours.

    • Stacey says:

      I’m right there with you Tamara. I’m pretty sure I checked my e-mail while writing this post. It’s amazing how much we have changed. A lot for the good but some maybe not… 

  6. Pamela says:

    I love this. I thought I was the only one deeply nostalgic for the 90s. I have a box of letters from College. Letters from boyfriends and from friends over summer break and friends who went to different schools. There was so much less to do then and when we were together there were no distractions. I love your thoughts on this time and wish I could meet you for coffee this morning to reminisce!!!

    • Stacey says:

      Oh! Coffee would be so lovely, wouldn’t it!? And this is where I get so confused. Were it not for this crazy over connected world, I would have never known you or your writing so is that something I would trade? I’m so not sure… 

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