Stacey Loscalzo

Oct 01


by Stacey

IMG_3463Every month or so I have lunch with my friend Donna. Donna and I met about five years ago when I was organizing a speaker series at our local YWCA. We have stayed in touch since then attending lectures together, meeting to discuss books, goals and writing. Donna’s son is significantly older than the girls. In fact, he and his beautiful bride recently returned from their honeymoon.

Today, as I talked (ok… complained) about how busy I was Donna began to ask questions and give advice. “Are the girls having fun?” “Are they doing ok in school?” “Did they ask to do all these activities or did you insist?” Well, yes, yes, yes. They are having fun. School hasn’t been affected. This was all their idea. But my complaints couldn’t be stopped. I talked about how worried I was about next year, about when the dancing got more intense, when there was more homework. When, when, when.

And then Donna began to talk about her son’s experiences. Of going from one sport to the other. Of eating a sandwich with one hand and changing his uniform with the other. Of wanting to quit a sport but not and then being glad he had continued. And in all her talking, I heard wisdom and experience. And I also heard hindsight. In hindsight, it had all worked out. Donna had known her son and made decisions that best met his needs. And it had all worked out.

As she talked, I thought about all the conversations I’ve had with parents of younger children who aren’t sleeping or who are struggling with potty training or who are having temper tantrums. And when I talk to them, those days seem so long ago and in truth, those problems seem so solvable, so obvious. “It will all be ok.”, I often say. “It will all work out.”

Because it does, right? I feel lucky to have shared a meal today with a friend who is walking on this path ahead of me. I feel lucky to be have been reminded that it will all work out. Because it almost always does.


  1. Amanda says:

    Perspective and hindsight are such powerful things. I think it’s so important to have people in our lives who are a few steps ahead to give us peace, and to try and be that person for someone else. 

  2. Patty says:

    Very wise words. I remember so many moms with older children trying to help me get through my early motherhood days. So often the advice was the same, “enjoy this time, all these little problems will work out.” And of course-they did. 

  3. Shana Norris says:

    I completely and totally agree with Amanda.  Knowing moms who have “been there, done that” is so huge.  I’m glad you found a little comfort for your worries, Stacey.  I know this has been weighing on your mind lately.

    • Stacey says:

      Thanks for reading Shana and you are so right- this whole topic has really been weighing on me. It was nice to let it go a bit…

  4. Sarah says:

    You can solve my potty training and tantrum problems?  OMG please come right now.  I know you’ve always wanted to visit scenic Springfield MO!  (Seriously though… rationally I know my son will not always be peeing on the rug then completely melting down over it, but ugh… the days are long, you know?

  5. Melinda Sohval says:

    You are a wonderful , thoughtful WILL all work out!

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