Over the summer I read a post written by the talented Jennifer King in which she discussed concepts presented in the book, Margin: Restoring Emotional, Physical, Financial, and Time Reserves to Overloaded Lives, by Richard Swenson, M.D. Swenson’s premise is that we must build ‘margin’ in to our daily lives. We all need that cushion of time and relaxation to breathe and to focus on the important things.
In my comments on Jennifer’s post, I wrote,
“Perhaps this metaphor of the margins will be what I need. I have always done a fairly good job of maintaining free time but as my youngest gets older I feel myself slowly but surely filling up too much space on our calendar. The line from this that I hope most to remember is “To keep margin in my life, I know I’ll have to say no to things that are good.” It is the saying no to the things that are good that is so hard but so crucial.”
Tonight at soccer practice a group of stood in the dark, watching our seven year olds play under the lights. These babies who then had to go home, eat dinner, maybe do homework. We shared stories of older siblings overwhelmed by pressure and of conversations with our husbands about why. Why we work so hard to provide this life for our children. This life that is both blessed and full of unprecedented stress.
I hope that in writing this and reminding myself of the concept of margin, that I can redirect myself as the craziness of fall continues to spin…